Lying to myself

QUOTE: "From using euphemisms such as “collateral damage” to faking orgasms, we practise deception all the time. But in order to lie better to others, we must first fool ourselves."

http://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2011/10/self-deception-sex-women

Very interesting. Self-deception is a tough one to crack – because if I can do it properly I will not be aware of my own lie. reminds me of that poem by Fernando Pessoa (translation mine):

Autopsicografia
O poeta é um fingidor.
Finge tão completamente
Que chega a fingir que é dor
A dor que deveras sente.

E os que lêem o que escreve,
Na dor lida sentem bem,

Não as duas que ele teve,
Mas só a que eles não têm.

E assim nas calhas de roda
Gira, a entreter a razão,
Esse comboio de corda
Que se chama coração

Autopsychography
The poet is a pretender

Who pretends so completely
That he pretends he is in pain
The pain he actually feels.

And those who read what he writes
In the reading feel deeply
Not the pains they have
But only the ones they lack

And so around the track
Spins, to entertain reason,
This little train
We call the heart

(There is a nice website with a variety of translations of this poem here: http://www.disquiet.com/thirteen.html)

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